Why Do Scars Form? Why Do They Stick more in one Person than in another?
Why Do some People Have Problems with Their Scars and Others not at all?
So, What are Shadows?
Das Life happens. History happens. We, and by that I mean our body-mind-soul unit, have to deal with the life that happens. We come into the world as a whole self with all possibilities. Curious and eager to learn. Persistent in learning, we also accept many attempts and setbacks until we can turn, sit, crawl, stand, and walk, until we know how to use our hands and mouth. We try things out. We are. We achieve our goals.
Depending on our environment, the people, the challenges, the love that we encounter or do not encounter, we maintain a trust in life or not. Depending on what we can learn from the role models around us or how our environment deals with challenges, whether we are received benevolently or rejectingly with our behaviors, we learn whether we are okay. We learn how to deal with fear and effort, challenge, surprises, love, and the associated feelings. Where we experience that it is good as we are, there we develop with joy. Where we experience that it is not desired how we react, we begin to reduce our entire self. We modulate it in the way we believe the environment and the world want us to be.
These feelings, thoughts, wishes, visions of ourselves that are not allowed to be (that we believe are not allowed to be), we place in the shadow. From now on, they accompany us on an unconscious level. They encounter us in the outside world, but often we do not recognize them as parts of ourselves – often we criticize what we actually carry within us. ⌈from shadow work according to Körber/Pott⌋
In the body, the shadows are created in the form of tension in the tissue. Underneath lie the feelings that we do not allow ourselves because they are often so painful that we believe we cannot bear them. (And we really do everything to not perceive these feelings or to repress them.)
However, there is ALWAYS an instance in us that wants to become whole again. That wants to relax and live authentically.
Example life. A cesarean section happens. In a wound area without shadows, there may now be adhesions that are so minor that they do not matter. The body heals the area and that’s it. Unexcited. Tension probably remains, which is resolved with a few scar therapies. And resolved REMAINS.
If the cesarean section now happens in a tissue with enriched shadow tension, then the wound healing takes place under much worse conditions – because more tension leads to more adhesions. Consequently leads to more tension in a larger area. Leads to less movement in the affected area and in the surrounding body area. A disturbance field arises. The body usually begins to painfully draw attention to the fact that there is an imbalance and that something is not right. Therapies are done. Progress is made. The tension decreases. The scar is better integrated into the body.
The body always strives to reintegrate all missing parts of the self and does its thing in its own way – often through pain – to draw attention to it.
It is important to know now that unresolved shadows in the body can always recreate the tension. That scar tension is probably resolved in therapy, but the progress is significantly slower. The more consciously the person concerned goes into scar therapy, the faster the body integrates the scar, the adhesions and adhesions, and the process transitions into well-being. Often it happens that the tears suddenly flow. There is sadness and perhaps also a feeling of powerlessness…that is when the body begins to dissolve traumatic tension. When the soul is allowed to cry, the trauma is allowed to dissolve, then the shadow melts with it. Then this part of the soul is reintegrated. And then the tension does not return to the tissue.
Trauma prevents the tissue from dissolving tension – trauma can have arisen in the course of an operation, but can also have left a predisposition in the tissue in the respective body area sometime earlier in childhood and be activated by the event. The body is a helper of life that wants to draw attention. Shows grievances, shows when things are too much, when changes are pending. If you listen there on all levels, the path to well-being is a path that also achieves its goal. After recognition and acceptance, life rewards with abundance, well-being and an increase in joie de vivre.
And yes! It takes a lot of COURAGE to decide on the WHOLE path.
